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A Father's Love
By Dr. James MacDonald
One year ago this week, a dynamic, vibrant, 23-year old man was taken from the arms of his loving family and ushered into God's presence. From earth-veiled eyes our unanimous viewpoint has been that Mitch Swaback was taken "early, way too early," and we ask with broken words why God allowed his time in this world to be so short.
As Mitch's pastor and friend, the grief is still fresh and I see many blink back tears every time his name comes up, which is often-even daily. I remember so clearly standing with his parents when the news first came of his death. I was with them when his body came back from Wisconsin and with them still when the casket was opened for the first time. I personally witnessed the heartbreak and grief and all that it means to lose a son.
I am blessed to have a wife, a daughter, and two sons. I desperately love my wife. And I love my daughter. But I've come to understand that you love people from different places in your heart and a parent loves a son from a heart-place that is deep and wide.
Shortly after Mitch's death, I tossed and turned for what seemed like hours one night, and rose in the dark to put words to what I was feeling. God met me in an amazing way that night and it began with a poem of grief entitled: "We've Lost a Son."
"We've Lost a Son"
It's three a.m. and my mind is bursting with sadness.
I cannot sleep, I only weep. How can that be?
I always sleep, even when my mind is racing, even when my heart has lost its song.
I'm wide awake. I'm gonna break. We've lost a son.
I dropped my own boy off at college today.
I didn't sigh, I didn't cry. How can that be? What's wrong with me?
My son, so loved, has left the house and altered family feeling for all time.
It's a day of dread, but no tears shed. We've lost a son.
Parents die; it's part of life. They leave, we grieve.
Time goes on unbroken, as the cadence of the clock cannot be stopped.
But not like this, a grief that flows and grows and shows. We've lost a son.
No words can say what echoes in the heart. It now appears our deepest fears.
These lines must fail to capture what the human soul can never comprehend.
We're shocked and rocked. Can time erase his wondrous face? We've lost a son.
I sense a warming touch upon my spirit. I'm wrong, I'm shown. I'm not alone.
The kind of understanding that can only come from sharing something deep.
God's heart is broken too. So He forgives so I might live. God lost a Son.
"What kind of Father makes this staggering choice?"
Only a love that's from above would crucify Heaven's Treasure
So that my unworthy soul could be redeemed.
God's love is awesome. Yes, now I see.
For one like me, God gave His Son.
Grieving in that dark night, I learned about a Father's love unlike what I had ever known. Of all the ways that God could have connected with us, He chose to model Himself in a Father/Son relationship. When God Almighty wanted to communicate to us what His love was doing on our behalf, He chose to refer to the second person of the Trinity as a Son, a relationship so intimate and tender that we could finally identify and say, "Oh, now I get it. A Son! God gave His Son!"
- Hebrews 1:2 says that "God has spoken in many ways, but in these last days He has spoken to us in His Son."
- John 3:16 says, "God so loved the world that He gave His only Son."
- First John 4:10 says, 'In this is love, not that we love God, but that He loved us and sent His Son.'"
Who can comprehend a love like this? God didn't lose a Son. God didn't just give His Son. God sent His Son. If you've lived and lost, you understand the depth of love God shows by reaching out to your heart and mine through His Son.
If you have never embraced Jesus Christ by faith, a decision each of us must come to in our own heart, then you may not know the reality of His living presence in the world today. Yes, we come to God through Christ for the forgiveness of sin and the hope of eternal life when we die, but also in Christ we find real life here and now.
I know because I have seen it in Mitch Swaback's family this past year. If Jesus is not alive, who is supporting and sustaining them in a sorrow that swallows so many others? If Jesus Christ is not alive how has the Swaback family rallied through their grief to start a foundation in Mitch's name? How else can you explain the countless hours spent funding and rebuilding the Tabitha House for battered women in the city of Chicago or reaching out in loving support to Mitch's many friends who were so lost and alone in their grief? This kind of loss often obliterates the lives of loved ones and drives them off to a barren place of loneliness and grief. But I have loved and laughed and embraced the Swaback family's joy and selfless mission even as the grieving continues.
I'll tell you how this can be explained; Mitch's family is living the message: "yes we sorrow, but not like those who have no hope" (1 Thess. 4:13.) They have the living presence of Christ as their reality and you can have it too. First John 4:14 puts these pieces together, "In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent His only Son into the world so that we might live through Him."
You might read that and think, "Live? I'm already alive; I don't need to live. But did you know that the Bible says that apart from Christ, every one of us is spiritually dead? But if you believe and receive the gift of love God wants to give you in His Son, then you can experience life.and life to the max!
We smile when we remember the passion with which Mitch lived his days. We called him, 'Maximum Mitch.' Mitch chose to live his life to the max and that includes admitting that you need forgiveness and eternal life that can only be found through faith in Christ. There's no shame in saying, "I'm not ready to die," or "I'm not sure I'm really living." I saw Mitch admit that and I saw him changed by the power of God's Son. He had received the love that God offered him through His Son Jesus Christ and it transformed him. Over the last two years of his life, crazy, party-Mitch became selfless missionary-Mitch. Mitch had a current, genuine thing with God. Do you?
One hundred years from today many of us will be rejoicing in heaven with Mitch; will you be there? One hundred years from today all that will matter is this: What have you done with Jesus Christ? What do you believe about the forgiveness of sins offered freely to all who believe through God's own Son?
You can choose by faith to receive God's love. Nothing would bring more honor to Mitch's memory than for you to decide today to respond to God's offer of eternal life. God reaches out to you in love. If you'd like to know more about this, then write us.
— Dr. James MacDonald
For more from James MacDonald on “igniting passion in the people of God through the proclamation of the truth,” visit Walkintheword.com.

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